Shoutingwind
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The first time someone tried to kill me, I was 19 and we were just coming in to land at Basrah. For the next 5 years I spent 26% of my life in the desert (not including routes).... only 480 days but it was enough.
I didn't realise how badly the constant fear affected me: I never took of my dog tags, even at home, in case no one knew who I was if I got hurt, I hated (and still do) loud noise like a car backfiring or fireworks, I still have a bag by the door that would be my escape route if our house was on fire.
When I moved to NZ I lost my support network, my family and my SQN all in one go. Man, did I go slide down the mental catastrophe curve quickly. I couldn't sleep, I was always scared, I had fully immersive flashbacks... it was hell, and no one around me could understand what I was going through.
One of the hardest things I did was front up to the doctor and say "I need help....". The councillors didn't help much, the medication helped a bit, but one day I reached rock bottom. I was almost catatonic sitting in the garden. I had just enough strength left to call my mum (who was in the UK 10000 miles away). "I can't get there" she said "who do you need?". Well if I couldn't have my mum, there was only one other person who could fix this, but we had broken up/gone on a break a few months before, "If he is your friend, he will come get you regardless" said Mum, wise words indeed. I did call him, and he came, picked me up, wrapped me in a blanket, put some socks on my feet and held me why I cried and cried and cried, getting all the pent up emotions I had been supressing for so long.
(Don't worry this story has a happy ending, keep reading)
When I closed my eyes I saw the rockets being launched at us in Basrah (eh Wobbly, scary day huh?), I could see the explosion on the bridge that killed 3 people while I was on guard duty up the tower at Alpha, I could see the rounds pinging off the dust while I was trying to LOX a plane, and the endless rows of coffins dropped in flags I had helped fly home.... my head was not a good place to live.
After that day I started to claw my way back up out of the dark hole PTSD had thrown me in. Because there was no one traumatic event, but multiple episodes built up over the years it was hard to steer away from the triggers.
I ended up using the CRAM rocket siren from Kandaha as my message tone, and the Basrah siren as my ring tone to desensitize me from them. For a few years everything was jammy...
The knight in shining armour who had rescued me from myself declared his undying love for me, and we have now been together for 8 years and are married with a little boy.
I had a very traumatic birth, we were lucky to survive, and I am still battlinging with post-natal anxiety. When our little boy was 8 months old fireworks night came around. I was completely unprepared for what happened. The noise threw me into a full immersion flashback, but this time rather than battle it alone, I went and hide in my husbands arms and he held me, stroking my hair telling me I was safe and loved. And I know I am, and I'll get better
A few weeks ago a car backfired on base while I was strapping my boy into his car seat, and I hit the deck. A bunch of army guys behind me laughed, but they don't know what I have been through. My first instinct was to protect my son, and I am happy with that. Let the *******s laugh....
If you are struggling with mental health, please get help. If you break your arm, no one expects you to solider on alone. If you break your mind, it's the same thing. It's just and injury and you CAN get through it and heal.
You have been brave, asking for help is just another type of courage.
I didn't realise how badly the constant fear affected me: I never took of my dog tags, even at home, in case no one knew who I was if I got hurt, I hated (and still do) loud noise like a car backfiring or fireworks, I still have a bag by the door that would be my escape route if our house was on fire.
When I moved to NZ I lost my support network, my family and my SQN all in one go. Man, did I go slide down the mental catastrophe curve quickly. I couldn't sleep, I was always scared, I had fully immersive flashbacks... it was hell, and no one around me could understand what I was going through.
One of the hardest things I did was front up to the doctor and say "I need help....". The councillors didn't help much, the medication helped a bit, but one day I reached rock bottom. I was almost catatonic sitting in the garden. I had just enough strength left to call my mum (who was in the UK 10000 miles away). "I can't get there" she said "who do you need?". Well if I couldn't have my mum, there was only one other person who could fix this, but we had broken up/gone on a break a few months before, "If he is your friend, he will come get you regardless" said Mum, wise words indeed. I did call him, and he came, picked me up, wrapped me in a blanket, put some socks on my feet and held me why I cried and cried and cried, getting all the pent up emotions I had been supressing for so long.
(Don't worry this story has a happy ending, keep reading)
When I closed my eyes I saw the rockets being launched at us in Basrah (eh Wobbly, scary day huh?), I could see the explosion on the bridge that killed 3 people while I was on guard duty up the tower at Alpha, I could see the rounds pinging off the dust while I was trying to LOX a plane, and the endless rows of coffins dropped in flags I had helped fly home.... my head was not a good place to live.
After that day I started to claw my way back up out of the dark hole PTSD had thrown me in. Because there was no one traumatic event, but multiple episodes built up over the years it was hard to steer away from the triggers.
I ended up using the CRAM rocket siren from Kandaha as my message tone, and the Basrah siren as my ring tone to desensitize me from them. For a few years everything was jammy...
The knight in shining armour who had rescued me from myself declared his undying love for me, and we have now been together for 8 years and are married with a little boy.
I had a very traumatic birth, we were lucky to survive, and I am still battlinging with post-natal anxiety. When our little boy was 8 months old fireworks night came around. I was completely unprepared for what happened. The noise threw me into a full immersion flashback, but this time rather than battle it alone, I went and hide in my husbands arms and he held me, stroking my hair telling me I was safe and loved. And I know I am, and I'll get better
A few weeks ago a car backfired on base while I was strapping my boy into his car seat, and I hit the deck. A bunch of army guys behind me laughed, but they don't know what I have been through. My first instinct was to protect my son, and I am happy with that. Let the *******s laugh....
If you are struggling with mental health, please get help. If you break your arm, no one expects you to solider on alone. If you break your mind, it's the same thing. It's just and injury and you CAN get through it and heal.
You have been brave, asking for help is just another type of courage.