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When I got with my OH, little did I know he was in a relationship already. A long distant one with another English lass, my fella is a civvy BTW. Once I moved in with him, we had a talk, that kind of one about 'now we live together, a few things need to be laid down'. He told me about her but it wasn't anything serious, he said she is recovering from surgery at the moment and didn't want to break her heart, the op was that of a small one, to remove a mole but she lied and said it was bigger, she came clean with him when he told her it was over.
Anyway, by this time I had moved in with him, I could have left but had no where to go, we discussed things and I told him to stop making excuses, if he want me, he'd finish with her, either way she'd be heart broken, he made his bed, he needed to lay in it.
Given that the 5 months distance relations, her in the UK and him in Cyprus, they'd only actually spent 2 weeks together, it wasn't serious but still, I didn't like the moral factor!
Recently, I found out he has a close female friend in another town, I used his mobile to text a friend as I ran out of credit and the last text he had sent was still sitting in his 'create message box'.
It had her name attached to it and I only saw the last 2 lines, which said;
'I've been thinking for my future, thinking of you and missing you xx'
I approached him and he explained who she was, I also asked his flat mate, who won't lie and confirmed this, also said that his past GF's have had a problem with her also. I sat down and talked to my OH and stated that if past GFs have had this issue, then it is something he is doing and needs to rethink his communication stance with her, not cut her off but the way he talks/acts via the phone.
So last Friday, I used his phone again, I need a mobile number that he had sent via text, this was in his sent msgs bit. I saw the start of one of his text's to this lass and was intrigued by it, thought it wouldn't hurt to take a sneak peak.
I was supposed to be baby sitting for a friend on Friday, he texted her and asked if they could meet up, he'd be going to limmasol to meet her and that he misses her 'sweet face' and 'misses her more than she can ever imagine'.
So last night I confronted him AGAIN about this lass, I know he ain't cheating but just reading those (I know I shouldn't have read then but hell, he ain't getting away with it). He says that she had been feeling down and only said those things to make her feel better, don't you just hate male excuses! I also confronted him to say that if I did end up baby sitting he would have lied about going to see her, turned out my friend cancelled and we ended up going out that night instead.
He says they are just good friends and nothing will ever happen, I live with the guy day and night, so I'd know if he was cheating, considering he'd have to drive 68 odd miles to meet her, I'd know if he did.
So Sunday afternoon I took his phone and called her in front of him, she was gobbed smack to say the least,agreed that his texts were too friendly but also said that he never really considers his actions at times. Plus that they have only ever been friends.
I'm meeting her next weekend for a coffee and a chat, things have calmed down but confronting him, saying he needed to think of his actions and that there are 2 people to consider rather than him is a big must. I do love him but I am not ready to marry him until he gets his act together.
Anyway, by this time I had moved in with him, I could have left but had no where to go, we discussed things and I told him to stop making excuses, if he want me, he'd finish with her, either way she'd be heart broken, he made his bed, he needed to lay in it.
Given that the 5 months distance relations, her in the UK and him in Cyprus, they'd only actually spent 2 weeks together, it wasn't serious but still, I didn't like the moral factor!
Recently, I found out he has a close female friend in another town, I used his mobile to text a friend as I ran out of credit and the last text he had sent was still sitting in his 'create message box'.
It had her name attached to it and I only saw the last 2 lines, which said;
'I've been thinking for my future, thinking of you and missing you xx'
I approached him and he explained who she was, I also asked his flat mate, who won't lie and confirmed this, also said that his past GF's have had a problem with her also. I sat down and talked to my OH and stated that if past GFs have had this issue, then it is something he is doing and needs to rethink his communication stance with her, not cut her off but the way he talks/acts via the phone.
So last Friday, I used his phone again, I need a mobile number that he had sent via text, this was in his sent msgs bit. I saw the start of one of his text's to this lass and was intrigued by it, thought it wouldn't hurt to take a sneak peak.
I was supposed to be baby sitting for a friend on Friday, he texted her and asked if they could meet up, he'd be going to limmasol to meet her and that he misses her 'sweet face' and 'misses her more than she can ever imagine'.
So last night I confronted him AGAIN about this lass, I know he ain't cheating but just reading those (I know I shouldn't have read then but hell, he ain't getting away with it). He says that she had been feeling down and only said those things to make her feel better, don't you just hate male excuses! I also confronted him to say that if I did end up baby sitting he would have lied about going to see her, turned out my friend cancelled and we ended up going out that night instead.
He says they are just good friends and nothing will ever happen, I live with the guy day and night, so I'd know if he was cheating, considering he'd have to drive 68 odd miles to meet her, I'd know if he did.
So Sunday afternoon I took his phone and called her in front of him, she was gobbed smack to say the least,agreed that his texts were too friendly but also said that he never really considers his actions at times. Plus that they have only ever been friends.
I'm meeting her next weekend for a coffee and a chat, things have calmed down but confronting him, saying he needed to think of his actions and that there are 2 people to consider rather than him is a big must. I do love him but I am not ready to marry him until he gets his act together.
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