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youngjenkins
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Good evening all,
Before anyone comes out with the line 'man up', years ago I would have layed this person out no questions asked, I've got to be the bigger man now and be responsible. Now to the question, I won't give specific details but any help anyone could suggest would be great.
I have a problem in my chain of command that no one really knows about (as such), not even me until yesterday.
This person happened to leave themself logged on with an email showing to a colleague in the office. This email slated me and had words in there that usually would have involved a hospital trip for them and a swift arm of the law for me.
There has been a problem in the workplace for a long time now, morale is very low due to certain reasons, no direction being one of them.
Anyway, I decided to try and step up to the mark and gather the troops together and get some sort of dialogue going, the present situation could no longer go on. We had a section meeting involving all ranks and it seemed to clear the air, or so we all thought. We discussed our problems and gave solutions to them, some simple and some not so simple. The buzz around the place afterwards was great.
Except this certain person, who didn't have the minerals to say anything at the meeting, then decided to have a go behind my back saying I was undermining them, out of control and frankly a disgrace and untrustworthy. Fair enough you might say (but the discussion was from everyone, unfortunately I was the spokesman and clearly stated the fact that this wasn't from me, but if they wanted to know what was from me I would gladly tell them in private) and this was the person who wanted the meeting instigated in the first place.
However, upon hearing this I confronted the said person and asked them to be honest, grow a pair and explain what they had been saying. Could they do it, not a chance? The word shi*ting brick comes to mind. I then proceeded to tell them what I had been told and gave ample opportunity to admit it. However, the slate was apparently wiped clean and I got on with doing what I'm paid to do.
Only to find yesterday this message that stated such things as 'I read youngjenkins the riot act and they wont step out of line again', 'the snake has been backstabbing me', 'he must be sleeping with the boss as he's so far up their a*se', 'he's taking credit for all the hard work I've done' (I finished a job they started 3 years ago basically, and worked 16 hour days to get it done right, but never once did I take a single bit of credit, in fact I deflected attention away from me and I said it was the whole team that finished the job, it just happened that I was the one they saw most), ''he's leaving snail marks everywhere he goes'.
So basically, because I have the backbone to stand up and do my job (and in no way ever was I disrespectful), because when I hear I'm getting stabbed I deal with the situation like a man and not a coward, this person has now got a vendetta.
The real funny thing is though, they have no trust whatsoever from below or above, has no idea about the job or how to manage, I stick up for this person day in day out and fight their corner, and still this happens. I make no song and dance about doing the work they should be doing.
Now I dont feel bullied or harrassed, as not once have I, or will I be intimidated by this person, and this person since I've known them has always had it in for someone, it just happens to be me now.
What do you guys and girls think I should do? They are a higher rank which only means they've got further to fall. I don't want this to happen, but if nothing gets sorted soonest I'm going to resort to decking them. Please help before I ruin not only them, but me and my families life
Thanks all in anticipation YJ
Before anyone comes out with the line 'man up', years ago I would have layed this person out no questions asked, I've got to be the bigger man now and be responsible. Now to the question, I won't give specific details but any help anyone could suggest would be great.
I have a problem in my chain of command that no one really knows about (as such), not even me until yesterday.
This person happened to leave themself logged on with an email showing to a colleague in the office. This email slated me and had words in there that usually would have involved a hospital trip for them and a swift arm of the law for me.
There has been a problem in the workplace for a long time now, morale is very low due to certain reasons, no direction being one of them.
Anyway, I decided to try and step up to the mark and gather the troops together and get some sort of dialogue going, the present situation could no longer go on. We had a section meeting involving all ranks and it seemed to clear the air, or so we all thought. We discussed our problems and gave solutions to them, some simple and some not so simple. The buzz around the place afterwards was great.
Except this certain person, who didn't have the minerals to say anything at the meeting, then decided to have a go behind my back saying I was undermining them, out of control and frankly a disgrace and untrustworthy. Fair enough you might say (but the discussion was from everyone, unfortunately I was the spokesman and clearly stated the fact that this wasn't from me, but if they wanted to know what was from me I would gladly tell them in private) and this was the person who wanted the meeting instigated in the first place.
However, upon hearing this I confronted the said person and asked them to be honest, grow a pair and explain what they had been saying. Could they do it, not a chance? The word shi*ting brick comes to mind. I then proceeded to tell them what I had been told and gave ample opportunity to admit it. However, the slate was apparently wiped clean and I got on with doing what I'm paid to do.
Only to find yesterday this message that stated such things as 'I read youngjenkins the riot act and they wont step out of line again', 'the snake has been backstabbing me', 'he must be sleeping with the boss as he's so far up their a*se', 'he's taking credit for all the hard work I've done' (I finished a job they started 3 years ago basically, and worked 16 hour days to get it done right, but never once did I take a single bit of credit, in fact I deflected attention away from me and I said it was the whole team that finished the job, it just happened that I was the one they saw most), ''he's leaving snail marks everywhere he goes'.
So basically, because I have the backbone to stand up and do my job (and in no way ever was I disrespectful), because when I hear I'm getting stabbed I deal with the situation like a man and not a coward, this person has now got a vendetta.
The real funny thing is though, they have no trust whatsoever from below or above, has no idea about the job or how to manage, I stick up for this person day in day out and fight their corner, and still this happens. I make no song and dance about doing the work they should be doing.
Now I dont feel bullied or harrassed, as not once have I, or will I be intimidated by this person, and this person since I've known them has always had it in for someone, it just happens to be me now.
What do you guys and girls think I should do? They are a higher rank which only means they've got further to fall. I don't want this to happen, but if nothing gets sorted soonest I'm going to resort to decking them. Please help before I ruin not only them, but me and my families life
Thanks all in anticipation YJ
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