Teenage contraception

[suewilldo]

Having heard this earlier this week I was totally horrified.
A young girl of14/15 had a one night stand with a lad and come into school the following day scared that she may be pregnant as no contraception was used.Her form teacher overheard her in conversation with her friends and had a quiet word and sent her to see the school nurse.This nurse then took her into the local town and purchased The Morning After Pill without even consulting her parents and gave her the medication!!
Now I have been lead to believe that this is totally legal but I cannot think of anything other than what about the possible implications...Religious beliefs of the family,what if she had reacted to the drugs etc etc.I am still in total disbelief. Now am I alone in this horror and totally paranoid as I have a 14 year old or is this the world we live in now?
Rant over!DT_Xtremez_09:

 

[penfold93]

is this the world we live in now?

Unfortunately yes, from my limited paediatric knowledge if the child is deemed 'Gillick Competant' (can make informed decisions for themselves) then they can consent themselves. This would hopefully include knowledge of allergic reactions etc although contraceptive pill side affects dont usually manifest themselves as true allergic responses in the same way as an antibiotic might. My concern is the counselling/psychological aspects but yes how times have changed, if she was pregnant then 50 years ago she would have been locked up in a mental institutionDT_Xtremez_21:

 

[Sniffer]

I understand your concerns and it wouldnt be pleasant to know that your child could be in that situation without you knowing. However the law states that it is a persons (or should I say Childs) right to have this kept confidential.

If this were not the case I believe there would be many more unwanted babies being brought up by babies themselves, as many would not confide in parents until it was too late.

At least in this situation no unwanted baby will be brought up by a mother on benefits.

 

[AllWoman]

Unfortunately it is a sign of the times. From what I understand as long as the health worker be it doctor or nurse deems the child under 16 mature enough to make their own decision regarding treatment then they are not obligated to tell anyone else in fact they have a duty of confidentiality as they do with any patient.

It would be hoped that they would encourage the child to confide in their parents but not all teenagers feel comfortable talking to their parents about everything.

As the mum of a teenager I can't decide whether this is a good thing or not, I guess I am lucky in that my teenage son will come and talk to me about anything and everything.

 

[firestorm]

Anything that drives down teenage pregnancies is ok by me.

 

[CIS Tech]

My concern is the added drain on society if the nurse hadn't done it. Good on her.

 

[Mohammed The Bear]

Its complete arz. From a non-proliferation of chav point of view good on the nurse for doing something about it and stopping the tart infect the gene pool.

The only thing I can find wrong is that the harlot hasn't been locked up in a box to stop her breeding programme.

Harsh .......... yes, but then I've not had any coffee yet this morning DT_Xtremez_09:

 

[Mrs_Monobrow]

I am not sure if i agree with it but once a child turns 14 (at least that was the age at my old docs) they can see a doctor without parents knowledge and therefore consent to treatment as well.

I hope the nurse gave her some food for thought on unprotected sex and the fact that she is still a child herself.

 

[laboratoryqueen]

I am not sure if i agree with it but once a child turns 14 (at least that was the age at my old docs) they can see a doctor without parents knowledge and therefore consent to treatment as well.

I hope the nurse gave her some food for thought on unprotected sex and the fact that she is still a child herself.

Exactly, at 14 they do not need their parents consent to see the doctor or family planning clinic, she can use any form of contraception prescribed, and the parents would not be informed of this.

If the girl is having one night stands at that age then talking openly with her friends, I just hope that the nurse gave clear advise to get on contraception and not to view the morning after pill as a form of prevention.

What worries me most, more than the fact at that age and being sexually active, is the fact of thinking it's fine to have one night stands and unprotected.

 

[Mrs_Monobrow]

Sadly, not enough parents talk to their kids about sex. My parents never told me anything unless i asked and like most kids i was too scared to! Everything i knew (and it wasnt much) was through sex ed in school. I had slept with a couple of boys before i met mono but i was always on the pill and used condoms. I plan on telling my daughter about the birds and the bees as soon as she is old enough to understand.

 

[laboratoryqueen]

Sex wasn't spoken about by my parents, it was very much taboo, and yet both were medical professionals. I decided to be the opposite with my kids, and have spoken openly with them when they have asked questions.

My eldest boy did ask me why I never explained about the birds and bees, to which I replied the birds and bees doing it would be anatomically impossible, especially if it was with a girl bee and boy bird. I try to answer their questions as accuratly and truthfully as I can, well apart from when my daughter asked how old could she be before I'd allow her to have a boyfriend. I said it was illegal before the age of 31 and contraception is mother standing with a shotgun.

 

[AllWoman]

I think thats the key thing here if more people were open about sex and relationships with their children situations like the above wouldn't happen as the girl would have gone to her mother in the first place.

I have two teenage sons and they come to me with "all" their questions (trust me some of them have made me blush!) and I think that comes from always being open and answering them honestly from an early age. I'd much rather they knew the truth than playground rumour!

 

[pie sandwich]

AW, Why did he make you blush??

Did he ask "is it true up the bum means no babies"!!!

 

[firestorm]

Education at home and school is the key. Being open and honest with your kids and making sure sex isn't a taboo subject.

 

[AllWoman]

AW, Why did he make you blush??

Did he ask "is it true up the bum means no babies"!!!

Nope!! There was one of those daft signs in a car in front of us at the traffic lights one day saying "If the red river flows take the dirt track" he wanted to know what it meant!!!:raf:

 

[vim_fuego]

I have a very practicla view of this occurrence...The girl fooked up and probably sh!t herself the next day...she was taken by a very practical school nurse to the right place for the right pill that would save her potentially throwing her life away too early...the girl may have learnt a valuable lesson about A) contraception and B) the fact that her peers have her best interests at heart and she can spread the word...

The girl can now enjoy the rest of whats left of her childhood...be educated to whatever level she is capable of unhindered by looking after a kid and not become yet another welfare burden for the state this year...

If she's shagging around at 14 though without contraceptive knowledge she must have the sensory gifts of Helen Kellor as most kids if not taught it in school can learn via the playground grapevine...

 

[Scaley brat]

Alternatively, turn safe search off and click "images" with the keyword "Syphilis", they'll soon see why we say "no glove, no love"

Harsh, but it will get the message across !

 

[Sniffer]

It has been stated in a number of posts that it is an education thing, rather than what they should or shouldn't be doing at the age of 14. Switzerland's age of consent is the same as in the UK, however they have one of the lowest teenage pregnancy and abortion rate in Europe. Their sex education begins at a younger age than in the UK and parents cannot remove their child from these lessons like they can over here.

 

[laboratoryqueen]

I see people are sayig about the nurse and good on her, in my view the teacher, who overheard and had a quiet word with the girl before sending her off to the nurse, played the most important role.

 

[penfold93]

In the Netherlands the age of consent is 16 but prosecutions are only made if a complaint is made the children cannot be prevented from taking sex education lessons and they have a much more relaxed view but their teenage pregnancy rate is a 1/4 of the UK's. In germany the age of consent is 14 between individuals under 16 and their rate is 1/2 ours.

In fact a large number of continental european countries have much lower teenage pregnancy rates. So maybe we need to look there for some solutions to our probs