Divorce.

[Mrs_Monobrow]

Me and MrsM were always asked why we married so young, well basically we wanted to be together, it is hard getting one's end away or the washing and ironing done when the lasy is 50 miles from where you are and all you've got is a RAF bike.

we met, courted got engaged and married within 10 months. And all Mrs Monobrows comments ring a very loud bell with us. I hope you are as happy as we have been and still are.

The real big plus is we are still young enough to travel, get p1ssed, act stupid and the kids are off our hands because we had them young. Now my sons are the ones giving me the parental bollokings and telling me to act my age and not my shoe size.DT_Xtremez_28:

Yep we are still very happy. We were together for 7 months when he proposed in sept 2000, we planned the wedding for aug 2001, (he would have finished his training by then) but just before xmas, i found out i was pregnant so we put it back til october. In the space of 6 weeks, i gave birth, got married and moved 90 miles away!!!!

I look forward to being 'free' from the kids in a few years. When my daughter is 16 i will only be 34 so as you say gem, still young enough for fun!!!

Im so in love its silly!!!!!!!!!

DT_Xtremez_30:

 

[katinthehat]

Yep we are still very happy. We were together for 7 months when he proposed in sept 2000, we planned the wedding for aug 2001, (he would have finished his training by then) but just before xmas, i found out i was pregnant so we put it back til october. In the space of 6 weeks, i gave birth, got married and moved 90 miles away!!!!

I look forward to being 'free' from the kids in a few years. When my daughter is 16 i will only be 34 so as you say gem, still young enough for fun!!!

Im so in love its silly!!!!!!!!!

DT_Xtremez_30:

I did it the other way around - did the fun bit first, before the kids came along.
I was 34 when I had my son.....hes not quite 2 now!

 

[GTFPDQ]

First marriage foundered on detachments and courses and the fact she couldnt cut the apron strings from mummy(3 yrs dating 7 wed). Second one sunk because we moved to Canada, I loved it, she hated it (2 yrs dating 7yrs wed). Were best of friends until marriage #3 which is on for the 4th anniversary.

Wonder if Ill get the 7 year itch again.

 

[UpLander]

So Far So Good

So Far So Good

Been married to my better half for 13 years, and not a bit unlucky. She didn't really know what being married to the service would be like, when we met I was travelling from home to Coningsby daily, home every night, not a det or posting in sight. Obviously woken up to the possibilities now, but with only 3 years left (can't see me signing on again, nothing to stay in for anymore) the light is at the end of the tunnel. We have been through a lot, medically for her and it has been tough, but having got through it, can honestly say we are stronger now than when we first married.

 

[Mrs_Monobrow]

Been married to my better half for 13 years, and not a bit unlucky. She didn't really know what being married to the service would be like, when we met I was travelling from home to Coningsby daily, home every night, not a det or posting in sight. Obviously woken up to the possibilities now, but with only 3 years left (can't see me signing on again, nothing to stay in for anymore) the light is at the end of the tunnel. We have been through a lot, medically for her and it has been tough, but having got through it, can honestly say we are stronger now than when we first married.

Seeing as i got it together with monobrow 4 days before he left for halton (we were friends first for about 9 months) and our entire relationship before marriage consisted of nightly phone calls, letters and the weekends, i had a rough idea on what forces life was going to be like.Still doesnt make it any easier though. You just accept it and get on with it, although i will admit that i dont like it and as the kids are getting older they ask where daddy is more, which makes it harder for me as they dont understand. But i would rather be with monobrow for 8 months of the year than not be with him at all!!

DT_Xtremez_28:

 

[vim_fuego]

It's looking like close to a 30% divorce rate within our small community...Don't know how that compares with 'out there'...

It must be artificially high at ISK then...My last crew, which was 12 in number had 10 people who had experienced a practice marraige...Out of the people I trained alongside and went up there with all of us (5) ended up single...2 of them lasted less than a year...guess it must be the isolation factor...DT_Xtremez_26:

 

[katinthehat]

I think too many women (or men for that matter) go into marrying into the forces without any idea of what the reality will be like. its a sad fact, but its true.
Having spent 3 yrs with my hub married un accompanied, that was hard, but it had to be done.
Ive always been an independant soul, and think this helps me cope. I dont buy into the "coffee morning" pack either - its not my thing. I have my life, hubby has his - and we cherish the life we have together outside of that.
It is hard moving away from family and friends - but if you marry into it, you are agreeing to take all the cr@p that comes with it, and not, as Ive heard some wives do - spend all your time moaning about them being away.
They knew what they were getting into - and if they didnt, they should have.

 

[gemarriott]

It's looking like close to a 30% divorce rate within our small community...Don't know how that compares with 'out there'...

It must be artificially high at ISK then...My last crew, which was 12 in number had 10 people who had experienced a practice marraige...Out of the people I trained alongside and went up there with all of us (5) ended up single...2 of them lasted less than a year...guess it must be the isolation factor...DT_Xtremez_26:

30% is below average in a lo tof areas. My d-in-law is a teacher and she tells me that in the school she teaches at the one parent familiesare in the majority.

On the news at the weekend one of the reporters quoted 50% of marriages as failing to go the distance.

What is reassuring from your little survey not all young marriages are doomed from the off.